Women amaze me. We are called to do great things for God’s kingdom often while navigating singleness, learning how to do marriage well or raising little disciples.
I believe women are called far and wide to do kingdom work but if we don’t keep a few key things in mind we tend to lose sight of where God is calling us. Our sight can get blurred by evolving seasons of life, changes in relationship status and societal pressures.
In order to keep our sights set on where God is calling us, I believe there are many things that a girl should know about her calling. In my humble opinion, the three things mentioned above are arguably the most important things a girl must know about her calling.
You’re Calling Might Look Different Depending on Your Season
As women we have the unique challenge of fulfilling our calling throughout the ever changing seasons of life. From singleness to marriage, motherhood to empty nesting each new season of life invites us to pursue our calling in a fresh way.
I’ve found that it can be both discouraging and confusing for women navigating a new or challenging season of life to discern what their calling is. In this tricky space of adapting to a new or challenging season I get questions like:
Can my calling change?
Can I have multiple callings?
What I think these questions are really getting at is how on earth do we adjust our calling to our season?
Unfortunately, there’s no manual or guide to help us discern how to navigate our calling when we’ve gone from rocking singleness to struggling in the first year of marriage, childless to motherhood, motherhood to empty nesting. But the good news is we have an open dialogue with our God in every age, stage, and season of life.
There are many, various seasons of life that each demand something new from you but your calling can always be found in conversation with God. I would never firmly insist that callings don’t change or that you can’t be called to more than one thing. But I do think our confusion about calling is often cleared up in conversation with our creator.
As seasons of life throw various curve balls at your calling remember, clarity is often just a conversation away. To help clear of confusion we can ask questions like:
God how are you calling me in this season?
How can I make an impact for your kingdom amidst all this change?
Show me where I can go and what I can do to answer the calling you have placed on my life.
You Don’t have to Wait Until You Find Mr. Right
Speaking of seasons, every girl should know that her calling isn’t put on pause until she meets her husband. Over and over I’ve seen single girls play it small because they are waiting for Mr. Right. I see young women hold themselves back from opportunity and adventure because they are convinced that if they stray too far they might miss out on meeting “The One”.
Girls, please keep in mind that God can provide a husband wherever he calls you to. I can’t give you a concrete timeline or promise that you won’t be lonely along the way. What I can promise is that your life and your mission don’t have to be put on hold until you find your future spouse.
If you’ve already found Mr. Right, allow me to remind you that you don’t have to wait either. I’ll admit that this is a concept that has tripped me up many times throughout my marriage. I believed that if my spouse didn’t agree with something I felt called to or just flat out didn’t like it I shouldn’t pursue it.
Of course there have been times in my marriage where I’ve felt passionate and fired up about something only for it to fizzle out, but there have also been times where I’ve felt in my bones that God was tilling up soil in my heart and planting seeds. When my eagerness to harvest what God was planting in my heart didn’t match my spouse’s enthusaism I used to abandon the field, stifle my emotions and scatter seeds of resentment all over the beautiful soil God had been churning up.
Whether you’re holding out for Mr. Right or scattering seeds of resentment like I did know this: Your spouse doesn’t have to agree with or like your calling.
It’s possible for life to begin before there is a ring on your finger, and there is a respectful way to fight for your calling without driving your significant other crazy!
In either case, single or married, I HIGHLY reccommend you enlist the help of a mentor to discern whether singleness or spousal influence is holding you back from your calling.
Called to Homemaking or Bread Winning?
If navigating your relationship status isn’t tricky enough figuring out how your calling holds up against societal pressure will certainly pose a challenge.
I strongly believe that God can call anyone, anywhere at any time. But from where I stand, society has strong opinions of women in all kinds of roles. If we choose to stay at home and raise the kids we aren’t powerful enough. If we decide to work outside the home and kill it in the work place we aren’t womanly enough.
I hear from stay at home moms that wonder if raising their children and caring for their home is a worthy enough calling. I listen to working moms lament about the guilt they feel for contributing the workplace at the expense of time with their family. All in all, I’ve had many conversations with women who feel pressure from society to be everything to everyone and look good while doing it.
Ladies, wherever God calls you I would encourage you to ditch society’s warped lens on what it means to be a woman and embrace the path set before you. Whether you’re called to embark on the grand journey of pin stripe suits and managing millions or changing diapers and prepping meals you’re work is equal in the eyes of God.
So sister if you feel called to be a homemaker be a home maker! If you feel called to educate your little ones instruct away! And if you feel like you’re called to be a business boss lady do business for His glory girl!
As far as I’m concerned, the only opinion that matters in the realm of calling is God’s. Consult your creator. Look to God for direction and refuse to give in to society’s idea of how you should conform to make others more comfortable.
What do You Think Every Girl Should Know?
Ultimately, girl, I hope you know that your calling is found in your creator. He is the caller, you are the called. And if you take nothing else away from this blog post I hope it’s this: calling is found in conversation with your creator.
Like I mentioned above, there are SO many things a girl should know about her calling. We only tackled a few so here’s an opportunity to throw in your two cents!
What do you think every girl should know about her calling?
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